Friday, March 9, 2018

The Inner Views of Donna Reidland

"The name of the LORD is a strong tower; the righteous man runs into it and is safe."
Proverbs 18:10
(ESV)

One of the most wonderful benefits of joining the blogging community is the gift of friendship.
When I started Homespun Devotions, I never dreamed that it would be the channel God would use to bring so many amazing encouragers and friends into my life, but that is exactly what happened.
One such person is the dear lady I am interviewing today.
Her years of serving Jesus and working for Him has equipped her with an enormous amount of wisdom that she so graciously and faithfully shares on her blog, Soul Survivor.
I know you will enjoy getting to know her better, as you read her words and amazing testimony below!


The 
of
Wife, Mother, Grandmother, Great-grandmother, Writer, Counselor, 
but most importantly, Child of God, 
Donna Reidland

Cheryl:  Could you please tell us about yourself?

Donna:  I’ve been married to the love of my life for 35 years. We’re a blended family with 4 grown children. That’s an understatement since we have grown grandchildren, as well. Our oldest son and his wife have 4 children. Three of them are married with one child a piece. Our oldest daughter has 4 sons, all grown but one. Our younger daughter has two children, one in college and one in high school. And our youngest son has 3 children, all still in school, the oldest has graduated. We have 13 grandchildren altogether, 4 great-grandchildren and 1 more on the way.

My husband Mike just retired. He was the Counseling & Discipleship Pastor at our church. He’s passionate about God’s Word and seeing lives change, and I never cease to be amazed that God would allow me to be married to him. We are truly more in love today than when we met, and that, as you’ll see from my testimony, is because of God’s grace, not anything in us.

I retired a year and a half ago from my job as a Biblical counselor working alongside him, and now work 1 or 2 days a week as a volunteer. I wanted to have more time to spend with family and do more writing. But we also have had a desire to start a full-time marriage ministry. We did that this year. It’s called Joyful Marriage Ministries.



Together, we have also done marriage conferences and retreats in the past and found it very rewarding. Seeing marriages that are broken restored, those that are surviving thrive, and those that are good get even better is our passion. So, God willing, we will do more of that.  

Cheryl:  We would love to hear about your Christian testimony.  Were you raised in a Christian home?  What life events led you to turn your life over to Christ?  How have you most witnessed the transforming power of God in your life?

Donna:  I wasn’t raised in church. My mother attended church for a short time when I was in elementary school, but I don’t remember my dad ever going to church, although he did receive the Lord shortly before his death.

I loved going to church as a child and would go occasionally when someone invited me. I would, also, attend with my grandmother when she visited us. In fact, I clearly remember praying a prayer of salvation sitting beside her in the back of a little Baptist church when I was about 12.
I don’t remember telling anyone, even her, and whether or not I was genuinely saved at that time, only God knows. I do know that God protected me and continued to work in my life though that wouldn’t be apparent for many years.

I married the first time when I was 17. Even though my mother begged me not to, my dad overruled her. After about 7 years of marriage I left with my two small children. After all, it was the 70s, and I wasn’t happy, so I did what everyone else was doing, I filed for a divorce. Looking back, I know God was at work in spite of me. A friend had recently invited me to start attending church with her and her husband. She begged me not to leave my marriage, but I had stubbornly made up my mind. Instead, I stopped attending church and set out to start a new life my way.

After a few years of single parenting, I married again, despite many red flags. When things turned bad, I desperately tried to hold on, but eventually left and filed for a divorce once again. Instead of agreeing to a divorce, he stalked me for the better part of the next two years. My life was filled with calls to the police, broken windows, slashed tires, and regular threats. But God protected my children and me from serious harmm although I gave Him little thought, if any.

Growing up I was a good student, didn’t get in any trouble, didn’t drink or use drugs, and besides deciding I was going to get married, never really went against my parents’ wishes. In short, I saw myself as a “good girl,” and despite all my bad decisions, I still saw myself that way.  But after two failed marriages, I decided “being good,” at least by my standard, wasn’t working. I might as well live like everyone else. But once again, God was at work.

In the meantime, the man who would become my husband, left his wife and filed for his second divorce. Our lives were strangely parallel. When we met, we assured each other we weren’t looking for a serious relationship, but God had other ideas.

At least in my case, I needed to see that I wasn’t a “good girl,” before I would be ready to see my desperate need for a Savior. When our relationships turned serious, we knew what we had been doing hadn’t been working and we decided to “try church.” Instead, God got a hold of our hearts, and our lives have never been the same.

It’s still amazing to see what God has done with our two broken, messed up lives.

The early years of our marriage was challenging, blending a family and learning to live life God’s way. But He has been faithful and blessed us beyond our wildest imaginations.
We know what life is like when you try to live it your own way and we know what life is like with God at the center. That understanding has given us a passion for helping others through counseling and discipleship.

Cheryl:  Who would you say has had the most influence upon you, spiritually?  Is there a particular person who prayed for you and lived a Christian example before you, causing you to be drawn to the Lord?

Donna:  Although there have been wonderful, godly mentors since I’ve become a believer, it was a series of people God used to get my attention and draw me back to Himself.  He has taken my broken life and my sin and given me His righteousness. I’m forever thankful for His “Great Exchange”!

Cheryl:  We would love to hear about “Soul Survival”.  When did you begin blogging?  How has your blog affected and expanded your ministry?  What caused you to make the decision to start your blog?  How did you decide on the name of your blog?

Donna:  I have done freelance writing off and on, but have always had a passion to write more. I wrote regularly for Christian magazines for a few years, but working full time for the last 10 years made that more challenging.

I started “Soul Survival” because I had been emailing a daily devotional to a growing group of friends for about 3 years. It started as a challenge to the ladies in our women’s ministry to encourage them to read through their Bibles the next year. Every year people would ask me to do it again. When the email list became increasingly cumbersome, I decided there had to be an easier way. The blog grew out of that.

I’m not sure how I came up with the name, just brainstorming.

Cheryl:  Where do you most find inspiration for your writing?  Is there a particular place or setting you prefer while writing?

Donna:  The inspiration for my writing is everywhere. I’ve done so much counseling and I know there is a great need to help people understand how to apply the Bible to daily living. That colors everything I write. I usually write in my office at home, but when the weather is nice, I often sit outside on my patio and watch the birds at my feeder and enjoy God’s handiwork ... and my husband’s since he has worked hard to give me a beautiful backyard to enjoy!

Cheryl:  Looking back over your life, what would you say were some of the darkest times you have lived through?  How did your faith in God sustain you during these times, and what advice would you give to others who may be now walking the same path(s)?

Donna:   During many of the darkest times in my life, I was not walking with the Lord, but, in hindsight, I know He was always with me and brought me through them.

As a believer, we have certainly had our challenges blending a family and working through all the issues that divorce can create, but God has used it all for good and has given us the grace we’ve needed at each step along the way.

I had two emergency surgeries about 19 years ago, one of them on my back. At the time, we had just moved across the state, had no personal physician and no church family. I had always dreaded any kind of medical procedure, but God used that time of having to depend completely on Him to take away my fear in that area. I truly had the peace which passes all understanding.
Also, a couple of years ago, I was diagnosed with cancer and had to have surgery again. God gave my husband and I both so much peace throughout the process. Thankfully, there is no longer any sign of cancer. 

Cheryl:  If you could go back in time and change one decision you have made, what would it be?

Donna:  I wish I had known more of God’s truth when my children were younger. Divorce is hard on kids and I wish I had been better equipped to help them through all that.

And both my husband and I wish we had known before we were ever divorced that the world’s view of divorce is a lie. God hates divorce because divorce hurts people, especially children. And even though, God has blessed us with the marriage we have today, it has not been without consequences.

People sometimes come to one of us for counseling, thinking we’ll give them a pass and say divorce is OK in their situation because we’ve been divorced. The truth is, we’ll fight harder to help someone save their marriage than anyone because we know that in most cases, the best things is for them to learn to be the husband and wife God wants them to be now in their marriage.

Cheryl:  What would you define as being some of the most pressing battles in the cultural war of our time?  Can you share some of your favorite go-to Scriptures that help to keep you encouraged in these dark days?

Donna:   I think our nation is in a desperate situation and I wonder how long God will continue to bless us even to the degree that He is, while we, as a nation, condone abortion and other policies He hates. But I also know that God will take care of His faithful remnant and will use hardship and calamity to turn others to Himself.

I frequently take people to Romans 8.28 & 29 or 1 Corinthians 10.13 and those verses are ingrained in my heart. Also, reading the Prophets, especially Isaiah and Jeremiah, I’m encouraged that He says over and over that He will care for His own. 

Cheryl:  What are you most passionate about?  What causes are closest to your heart? 

Donna:  I’m passionate about seeing lives changed, but I know genuine change only takes place when hearts are changed. Only God can do that through His Word and the power of His Spirit. I pray He’ll allow me to continue to play some part in that process.



Cheryl:  How can we pray for you at this season of life?  Are there particular burdens upon your heart that we can help to carry to the Father?

Donna:   You can pray for my family and for God’s wisdom for our new ministry and my husband’s over the next few years.

Thank you so much, Cheryl, for the opportunity to share with you and your readers. May God bless you richly! 


And, thank you, dear Donna, for being willing to participate in Inner Views!
We are so blessed by your presence here, and trust God to richly bless you, in return!

Dear readers, please keep Donna and her husband and family in your prayers, as they continue to share the Good News and work together in His service.
I hope you will stop by and visit Donna at Soul Survival.
You can also connect with her on FacebookPinterestTwitter, and Instagram,
and you can email Donna at reidland.donna@gmail.com.

Thank you so much for reading, and God bless you all!

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42 comments:

  1. I enjoyed reading Donna's innerview, Cheryl. I will pray for the couple's new ministry. They sound like a power team for sure. I really get what Donna said about being passionate to see lives changed. It is exciting to help people when we can point them to the truth! I want to read her blog! Love and hugs to you, dear Cheryl, for all this encouragement!

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    1. Thank you, sweet Mary! Your support and kind words mean so much! God bless you, my friend. Sending much love and many hugs back to you!

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    2. Thanks so much for your love and prayers!

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  2. Dear Cheryl and Donna, Thank you so much for sharing these testimonies here! I started following Donna's blog a few months ago, and I have really appreciated her willingness to stand for God's Word and Truth. What a miracle of God's Grace to bring her and her husband into a place of leading hearts to Jesus. Their new marriage ministry sounds so good, especially as the Lord makes use of all that they have been through! I will be keeping them in my prayers! May God bless you both!

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    1. Bettie, thank you so much for your love and prayers. I appreciate you reading along with me on Soul Survival. Your comments there are always a blessing!

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    2. Oh, how wonderful, Bettie! Donna is such a dear blessing, and I am always inspired by her faithfulness and steady life. It is wonderful how God interweaves all of our lives together, isn't it? God bless you, sweet friend. :)

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  3. Cheryl, thank you so much for this sweet post and for sharing it here on your blog. I'll be praying for you, your family, and your ministry, as well. Donna.

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    1. Thank you, dear Donna! I am SO thankful God worked it all out and allowed us to do this. His timing is always perfect. Your prayers mean SO much to my family and me, and you are an amazing blessing to us! Much love and gratitude to you, my friend.

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  4. Sweet Cheryl, thank you for sharing this wonderful interview! Having been divorced and now remarried for nearly 30 years, I agree with so much Donna shares. God has done remarkable things in our lives and given us great healing. But God continues to use us (contrary to what I was told many years ago) for His glory and to help others and encourage couples to avoid divorce. May God continue to bless you and your precious family, my sweet friend! You are dearly loved!! Hugs! xoxo

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    1. Oh, Cheryl! That is just wonderful how God uses dear Donna to minister to you. We are all so very broken, aren't we? SO much pain and hurt in all of our pasts, but praise God, He redeems our mistakes and forgives our sins and casts them into the sea of forgetfulness never to be remembered against us again. I am so thankful for His love and mercy and grace! I am so thankful for your kind words and loving support. You are dearly loved, too, my friend. Sending hugs and blessings to you!

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    2. Congratulations on your almost 30 years. God truly does redeem all our messes, doesn't He! May God continue to use you mightily!

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  5. Hi Dear Cheryl, I'm so glad you interviewed this dear sister in Christ; I'm heading over to her blog next. I love that with the Lord, nothing is wasted but everything is redeemed. What a strong testimony she has and I know it will encourage many.
    Sending love and prayers your way!
    Noreen

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    1. Oh, what a wonderful way of wording that..."with the Lord, nothing is wasted but everything is redeemed." How blessed we are that this is true! Donna's testimony surely is powerful, and I know God has even bigger things ahead for her in the continuation of her story and ministry. He is SO faithful! Sending much love to you and praying much for you, dear friend.

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    2. Thanks for your kind words. All glory to God!

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  6. Such a real and inspirational interview. The honesty speaks to my heart and I'm praying for Donna and her family. Thanks for sharing, both of you!

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    1. Thank you, Floyd, for your kind words. Blessings!

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    2. Thank you ever so much for your prayers and support, brother! God bless you. Praying for you!

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  7. I so enjoyed your interview with Donna, Cheryl. What an inspiration she and her husband are for those people who desperately need need help and wisdom. God is working through them, and the journey they've been through, to encourage others. God bless them!

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    1. Thank you, Kitty. Your words are a great encouragement!

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    2. I agree...Donna is a huge inspiration to so many. Her life and outreach are such a blessing. Thank you for your sweet visit and kind words!

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    3. Enjoyed the INNER view very much. Thanks for sharing with us Cheryl. Wonderful words of encouragement. Hugs and blessings, Cindy

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    4. Thank you so much, Cindy! So thankful you enjoyed reading Donna's Inner Views!! Love, hugs, and blessings to you, too, sweet friend. :)

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  8. a very inspirational piece of writing!!!

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    1. So thankful for your visit and kind words, Baili! God bless you. :)

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  9. I enjoyed this so much! So interesting to see how God delivers each of us in His own way.

    I pray Donna and her husband's marriage ministry continues to grow and helps many! Our culture has sold us all a boat-load of lies about marriage!

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    1. Oh, you are SO right, Jerralea! So many lies, and so often, we believe them as the truth. Thank you so much for your sweet visit and kind words! It was so nice to "meet" you! I love your name...so pretty! God bless you. :)

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  10. My dear Donna, I was greatly touched by your candid and inspirational review. I agree with Floyd...your honesty spoke to my heart. I am truly amazed at the love God showers upon us and how He uses everything we go through for His good. There are things I look back on in my life and often wish I had made a different choice, but then the Lord will bring someone into my life that is going through the very same thing and it's something I can relate to. I love how the Lord gives me an opportunity to help and inspire someone.

    Thank you for sharing, dear Donna. And thank you, sweet Cheryl, for allowing Donna to share her story on your blog. Love and hugs to you!

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    1. And, thank you, sweet friend for your precious support, encouragement, and kind words! It always means so much to see that you came by! God bless you and keep you!

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  11. Thank you to Donna for a lovely, grace-filled testimony. And to you Cheryl for being the means of us hearing it. Bless you both.

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    1. God bless you, too, Kate! So thankful for your visit and kind words!

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  12. I enjoyed reading this Cheryl and Donna. Time and again we are reminded that God always make beautiful things out of our lives when we turn our lives over to Him.
    Thanks a lot for sharing your life with us Donna... so much to learn from it.
    Thanks for publishing this Cheryl, have a super blessed day!
    Love

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    1. Thank you, Ugochi! Thank you so much for your visit and encouragement!

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  13. What an incredible testimony of the goodness of the Lord! Truly a remarkable thing the Lord did in their lives, and how amazing that they both had two failed marriages before meeting, and learning to live a new life in Christ together, and that they can pass on the lessons they have learned to others. I really enjoyed this interview Cheryl, as I have all of your interviews! You ask the best questions to really get the best look into the hearts of those you interview. May the Lord continue to bless your ministry and work for Him! I appreciate you so very much, always leave your blog blessed and encouraged! Hugs to you today :)

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    1. Sending many hugs back to you, sweet friend, and so thankful to see that you made it back home safely. :) I appreciate you so very much, too, and am eternally grateful for your friendship and support! God bless you!!!

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  14. Cheryl, these interviews you do so all who come by your site can be blessed.

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  15. Hi Cheryl, I love that you give people a platform to share what the Lord has done in them and for them, and how they in turn are sharing their love for the Lord.
    God bless
    Tracy

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    1. Thank you so much, Tracy! I am so grateful for you and your encouragement, my friend. God bless you!

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  16. Cheryl - such an encouraging post! I've seen this same 'story' played out many times through our years in ministry and am constantly in awe of how God can take broken pieces and create something that brings glory to Him! What a beautiful story of what the Lord has done and their desire to serve Him. Looking forward to checking out her blog.

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    1. Thank you, dear Lauren. I am continuing to pray for you, and I am trusting Jesus to hold you extra close during this difficult time. I am so thankful for your encouragement. God bless you!

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  17. That was fun to learn more about Donna! Thanks!

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